Why A Bad Haircut can ruin more than just your day

I decided to get a few inches off my hair before the new school year started. I went into Supercuts, asked the hairdresser I have never used before to cut my hair about two inches below my shoulders and cut my layers short with them. Nothing too drastic.

Instead of that, one side rested right on my shoulder while the other was an inch higher.  All my layers were gone. Apparently, she thought I meant to cut my hair as short as my layers. Now, my neck always cold when I'm outside, my hair tickles my neck, and everything is too short. I can't even wear a ponytail anymore.

The day after I had my hair cut, I went to a different place and had it cut by someone who knew what she was doing. My hair is still too short and I still hate it, but at least it's not uneven anymore.

Whenever someone says they like my haircut, I say thanks and tell them the hairdresser messed up. If I say I don't like it, people try to reassure me that it looks great and that I really pull it off. Every time I see someone complain about their hair, people always tell them to shut up and that they look great.

"You're hair looks cute with that hair cut."
"You're friends aren't going to hate you now that it's short."
"It'll grow back eventually, don't worry."
"I couldn't ever pull that off. You look so good with it."

SHUT UP
Alright?
Just be quiet and listen to me.

I really don't care if someone thinks I look good with my hair shorter. I don't care if anyone thinks it looks good. I don't care what anyone thinks about my new haircut because I don't like it at all.

When I groan and complain about my hair, I do not want anyone to give me compliments. I don't want to hear about how it looks great. Saying I look good with it won't make it grow faster. When I cry about my haircut, I would be more than okay with people agreeing it looks bad and maybe give me advice on how to style it or where to buy some good cheap extensions. 

A haircut is supposed to keep your hair healthy and make you feel confident about yourself. when you have a bad haircut, all the confidence is swept away with your hair. A nice hairstyle is one of the easiest and simplest ways to make you feel more confident about your body. 

Compliments are great, yes. But when someone is clearly upset about their hair, saying it looks nice won't change how they feel. Sometimes just bringing up their haircut can continue to lower their self esteem. 

 -- Amber.